I have a friend that got pregnant very easily. Don't we all have those friends? Well this particular friend of mine is one of those know-it-alls. You say something about a topic - ANY topic - and she knows more about it. Well, her little boy just turned one in December. He was only a few months old when GatorMan and I went through our one and only IUI. While I was all jacked up on hormones and feeling all the pregnancy signs in my two week wait, she told GatorMan that there was no way I could be feeling those things because no one does. Well - bottom line is that SHE didn't feel signs in her two week wait, so therefore, no one else can either. At the time, we didn't realize that those two weeks of "pregnancy feelings" were the only ones we would ever experience.
Shortly thereafter, Dr. RE cut us off. Needless to say, her words hurt me deeply. And not only did they hurt me, they hurt GatorMan, so that made her comments worse. After months (yes, plural), I finally addressed the situation with her. She apologized, genuinely, and acknowledged her propensity for spouting out things without thinking.
This friend and two others threw us a baby shower a couple of weekends ago. A very nice, very fun, baby shower. I didn't notice that she did not drink mimosas with the rest of us.
Yes, you KNOW where this is going.
She called the other day with her great news..... she's pregnant again. I asked if they had been trying, or did this just "happen." She said they'd been trying for seven months and she was getting so frustrated. I think she forgot who she was talking to. Then she mentioned how the first trimester is the worst. Again - audience acknowledgment is not her strong suit.
After hearing her news - did it sting? A little. Am I jealous? A tiny bit. Does it hurt as bad as it used to? Not at all. In fact, I am really happy for her, and was not as bothered by her thoughtless comments as I would have normally been.
Thank you, Little Miss Ukulele. You are making me a better person with every day that goes by.
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You are a better person than I, my dear. On the other side of the phone I would be rolling my eyes like gangbusters, playing a pretend violin, making obscene hand gestures...
I could probably use one of those Ukuleles.
I can't wait to stop feeling bad about things like that
It is good to hear that maybe one day these things won't send a knife through my heart as they do now. That makes me feel hopeful. Thank you for sharing. So very glad you have the Ukelele : )
Mo
Your sweet girl certainly takes the rough edges and smooths them - but your friends should still have a little tact, yes?
Good for you - bask in your baby.
You have a lot of restraint...it's too bad she is mostly unaware of her Foot in Mouth disease. It's good to know that a baby in the arms can make things like this a whole lot easier. I hope I get one of those Ukuleles soon too.
Very nice of your friends to throw you a shower!
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